Getting a Divorce with Children (2024)

To file for a divorce in Montgomery County, you will need to sit down and fill out a number of detailed forms. This page will help you understand what you should think through and provide the forms to help you get started.

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Understanding the Basics

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To get a divorce in Montgomery County, you will need to file a set of forms and then go through the divorce hearing process. This can take 4 to 12 months, or more. This page will help you file the forms you need to get the process started.Read the divorce timeline to learn about the full divorce process in Montgomery County.

However, divorce isn’t the only way to end your marriage.If you feel that you and your spouse are able to agree on everything, including how to divide money and debt,you can consider filing for dissolution instead.

If you’re in an abusive relationship, consider speaking with a lawyer.Abuse can complicate a divorce. Working with a lawyer can help keep you safe while you end your marriage.

Who can file for divorce?

In order to get divorced in Montgomery County, you must meet these requirements:

  • You or your spouse currently live in Montgomery County and have lived there for at least 90 days.
  • You have lived in Ohio for at least six months.
  • If you or your spouse are pregnant, you can't finalize the divorce until the baby is born.

You do not have to be legally separated before getting divorced.

If you and your spouse live in different counties, you can choose which county you file in. You can file in a county where you have lived for more than 90 days or the one where your spouse has lived more than 90 days.

Think through what you need

Before you file, you need to gather information and make some decisions.

  • Decide if you need a lawyer.A lawyer can help make decisions, file the paperwork and speak for you in court.There aresituations when it might beparticularly important to get a lawyer, like if you have experienced domestic violence, or if the divorce could impact your immigration status.
  • Gather and understand your financial information.You will need details on your incomes, debtsand assets.Getting organized for your divorce or dissolutionprovides an overview of the kind of information you will need. Since you will swear that all your responses are true, you want to make sure they are both complete and correct.
  • Consider your short-term needs.A divorce can take several months to over a year. To make sure you have what you need in the meantime,you canrequest“temporary orders.”These can include custody and visitation, child supportandspousal support(sometimes called “alimony”).They could also includerequests to split property or for your spouse to pay certain bills.
  • Decide on the “grounds” (or reason) for divorce.Learn more about the different legal reasons you can give the Court for ending your marriage through divorce.
  • Consider your tax requests.It's also important to think through which parent can say the child is their "dependent" for tax and other purposes. This has a number of important impacts.Having an another "member of your household" from a legal perspective can mean decreases to your taxes. You could gain access to more low-cost health care options for yourself as well as for your child.You could alsogainincreased benefits from programs likeSNAP.

Filling out and filing the paperwork

On this site, you can use theDivorce with ChildrenForm Assistantto fill out the forms you need to file with the Court. The Form Assistant will ask you some questions, which you can answer on any phone or computer. It can take a few hours to complete all the necessary information. You will be able to save your progress and return to complete your forms if you need to.

  • Once forms are completed, print them. You can print your forms at:
    • Any Dayton Public Library Branch for 10 cents per page
    • Montgomery County Law Library for 20 cents per page (the Law Library only accepts cash or a check as payment)
  • After you print your forms, you will need to sign your documents in front of anotary. You can find a notary by searching on your browser for “a notary near me.” You can also wait to sign your papers until you get to the Court. The Court has staff who can notarize your forms for you.
  • Drop off your completed, signed and notarized forms at the Court Navigator's Office. The Navigator's Officeis inRoom 222.To find the Navigator’s Office, get off the elevator on the second floor and go around the corner to the right. The Navigator’s Office is the second window past the Sheriff, in front of the stairs. There is a bin for drop off and pick up.
  • The Compliance Office will contact you after their review is complete. They will tell you if you need to make changes to your forms. Note: They usually contact you by phone, so make sure they have your correct phone number. If you need to make edits to your forms, they may ask you to come in to make the changes or may send you aletterdescribing the changes you need to make.
    • If you need to make edits to your forms, read the letter from Compliance carefully and make the requested changes. Compliance allows you to make the edits directly on to the printed document by using white out and writing in blue ink the updated response or filling in ink a missing response.Do not cross outanything already on your forms, you must use white out to make corrections. You can also log back in to your MCDRC account and make the changes online and reprint your packet.
    • After you make your changes, drop off your forms for review at the Compliance Office in Room 261 in the Courthouse.If you need to resign and notarize your forms, the Court has staff who can notarize your forms for you.
    • Once your forms are approved for filing, you will get a call from the Compliance Office. Your forms will be available for pick up in the “pick up” bin at the Compliance Office.
    • If you have questions, you can contact the Compliance Office at (937) 225-4782.
  • When you pick up your forms, the Compliance staff will give you log-in information and direct you to a computer kiosk next to the Compliance Office. You will log-in and enter the basic case information into the Court’s computer system. This case information will be included in your printed packet of forms on the form named “Primary Party Questionnaire.” Please refer to the Questionnaire as you enter your information into the system.
  • Once you have submitted your Primary Party Questionnaire on the Court’s computer, take your forms to the Clerk of Court’s Office. The Clerk of Court’s Office is located on the first floor in Room 104 of the Common Pleas Court Building, at 41 N. Perry Street. The Domestic Relations Court is connected to the Common Pleas Court Building through an indoor walkway, so you do not need to walk outside to get to the Clerk of Court’s Office.
  • Give the clerk your forms to file.

The cost to file for a divorce with children in Montgomery County is $475.If you have a low income andcan’t afford the filing fee, you can choose to add a Poverty Affidavitto create an additional form to file with your packet of documents. This form asks that you be allowed to file without paying a fee upfront. You may still be responsible for paying the fee at the end of the case.

Forms and Letters

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Divorce with Children Form Assistant This Form Assistant is a step-by-step interview to complete Montgomery County's Divorce with Children Forms.
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Legal Help and Lawyers

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Dayton Bar Association LRSThe Dayton Bar Association Lawyer Referral Service provides help by connecting you to a local lawyer that can help you with your issue or case.
Ohio State Bar AssociationThe Ohio State Bar Association helps to connect the public with useful legal information and services.

Local Government and Community Resources

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Montgomery County RecorderThe Recorder's Office is responsible for making a complete, accurate and permanent record of every document related to land ownership in Montgomery County.
Montgomery County Law LibraryThe County Law Library is open to the general public but cannot provide legal referrals and/or legal advice.
Montgomery County Clerk of CourtsThe Clerk of Court helps provide public access to court records and receives, distributes and preserves official court documents.
Montgomery County Common Pleas Court Domestic Relations DivisionThe Domestic Relations Court hears cases involving divorce, dissolution, legal separation, annulment, domestic violence civil protection order petitions, spousal support, custody of minor children and...
Montgomery County AuditorThe Auditor has many roles in Montgomery County, including determining property values for taxing purposes and transferring real property deeds.
Montgomery County Child Support Enforcement AgencyThe County Child Support Enforcement Agency (CSEA) provides help with establishing a support order, making payments and getting support that you are owed.
Dayton Metro LibraryThe public library is a free source for information for anyone living in the area. The library allows anyone with a library card to check out books, movies, music and more. You can also receive help...
Getting a Divorce with Children (2024)

FAQs

What age is divorce most damaging to a child? ›

Elementary school age (6–12) This is arguably the toughest age for children to deal with the separation or divorce of their parents. That's because they're old enough to remember the good times (or good feelings) from when you were a united family.

How to get through divorce with kids? ›

Tips for Divorcing Parents
  1. Encourage kids to share their feelings — positive or negative — about what's happening. ...
  2. Keep adult conflict and arguments away from the kids. ...
  3. Try not to use kids as messengers or go-betweens, especially when you're feuding. ...
  4. Expect bumps as kids adjust to a new partner or a new partner's kids.

At what age do children cope best with divorce? ›

On average, children aged 6-10yrs old are least affected by divorces; however, children aged 1-2yrs old's seem to be the most affected. Every marriage goes through its good times and bad times; however, when children become involved in the equation, the stakes become even higher.

What is the walk away wife syndrome? ›

The love of your life, your forever partner, seems to have checked out emotionally. No matter what you do or say, she feels miles away – and the distance between you grows wider each day. If this sounds familiar, you could be facing a phenomenon increasingly referred to as “walkaway wife syndrome.”

What is a silent divorce? ›

A “silent divorce” or an “invisible divorce” generally refers to the same concept. Both phrases describe a situation where a married couple remains legally married but has effectively ended their emotional and often physical relationship.

Is it better to stay together for the kids? ›

While staying together may seem like the best option for the children, studies show that an unhealthy or unhappy marriage can adversely affect their emotional well-being. Children are perceptive and can sense tension and conflict between their parents, even if it is not explicitly expressed.

What is the hardest part of divorce for kids? ›

As children grow older, they may begin to feel as though it is their responsibility to patch things up between their parents. At this point, children have a hard time accepting the permanence of a divorce, and it is common for children to believe that they can fix the situation themselves.

Which person is most likely to remarry after a divorce? ›

Men tend to remarry sooner (3 years after divorce on average vs. 5 years on average for women). Many women do not remarry because they do not want to remarry. Traditionally, marriage has provided more benefits to men than to women.

What are the symptoms of miserable husband syndrome? ›

Miserable Husband Syndrome or Irritable Male Syndrome is when a man experiences hypersensitivity, anxiety, frustration, and anger due to the decrease in testosterone caused by aging (andropause), certain medications, or abnormally-high levels of stress.

Do kids do OK after divorce? ›

Even though children of divorce generally do well, a number of factors can reduce the problems they might experience. Children fare better if parents can limit conflict associated with the divorce process or minimize the child's exposure to it.

Is it better for kids to stay in unhappy marriage or divorce? ›

Studies reveal that children who are raised in a two person, loving, and stable environment show less signs of depression, anxiety, and defiant behavior and these children also have better academics and develop the capacity for truly intimate relationships; children raised in a stressful and conflicted marriage are ...

What age is divorce the hardest? ›

You may experience a range of emotions when your parents go through a divorce. It can be particularly challenging for children during what is often considered the worst age for divorce. Younger children between the ages of 6 and 12 tend to feel a sense of confusion, guilt, and sadness.

How to separate when you have kids? ›

Other important things to do when separating
  1. Agree child contact arrangements. It's usually best for children to spend time with both their parents, as long as this is safe. ...
  2. Make arrangements for child maintenance. ...
  3. Get advice about debts. ...
  4. Make or change your will.
Jun 28, 2023

How to begin the process of separation? ›

When Love Has Gone: Five Steps Towards Separation
  1. Step 1: Decide Who Will Leave. You need to decide who will leave the joint home and where your children or pets will live. ...
  2. Step 2: Gather Documents. ...
  3. Step 3: Make A List. ...
  4. Step 4: Decide What Matters To You. ...
  5. Step 5: Get Legal Advice.
Feb 11, 2019

How do you initiate a separation process? ›

7 Tips for Starting a Healthy Separation
  1. Treat your partner as you would treat a business partner. Be courteous. ...
  2. Don't make any significant changes. ...
  3. Discuss the various options for pathways to amicable divorce. ...
  4. Choose your Family Mediator and/or Lawyers. ...
  5. See a Counselor and/or Doctor. ...
  6. Wait to start a new relationship.

What is the first stage of separation? ›

Whilst this may not be true for everyone, certain feelings and behaviours can often resonate to identify these stages. 1: Denial – A state of “shell shock”, a coping mechanism. You don't want to believe your relationship is coming to an end. You may not want to talk or even be able to think about it.

How to separate and still live together? ›

Tips for living together while separated
  1. Work on effective communication. ...
  2. Set Boundaries, communicate your needs and manage expectations. ...
  3. Get to know yourself better. ...
  4. Take financial responsibility. ...
  5. Focus on your own actions and reactions.

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